The Road to Hell is Paved With... Social Media Notifications?

“I, myself, am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.” ― Augusten Burroughs
I kind of love this quote for many reasons but the most important one is because it absolves me of any true responsibility for my real or perceived shortcomings.  Thanks to Augie, I don't think he'd mind me calling him that 😉, I can simply drop my slack and less-than-amazing attributes to my good intentions which don't always pan out as I want them to.

Allow me to start at the beginning.  I was working on my podcast, Enchanted Beast Podcast, and one of my major categories this year is intention setting.  It got me thinking about how I start out my day with the best intentions to work on my WIP, update my blog, research topics for my podcast, and Buffer my social media post for the week.  Unfortunately, I get a notification on my desktop or my phone and get sucked into social media or email HELL.

I've tried turning off my notifications. Blocking all interruptions on my phone. Turning WiFi off while I'm typing. It doesn't matter what I do.  I fall victim to my greatest flaw... I HAVE TO BE IN THE KNOW!!!

Okay, maybe I'm exaggerating about my efforts to stay on task.  I might be stretching the truth a little about how far I go to avoid the notorious distractions known to keep writers from doing the one thing we claim we love to do. But come on, cut me some slack.  I, myself, am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.”  See what I just did , there...?  If I were a smug, billionaire, CEO, white guy; I'd be smirking right now while lifting my dark, winged brow in defiance .→→→→→→→

But really, I am focused on living with more intention--more purpose.  A big part of of my new approach to living requires me to take into account exactly what intentions fuel my actions, thoughts, and responses.  In other words, why the hell am I wasting so much time doing everything under the sun except writing these damn books?  What are my flaws?

What is a flaw? An imperfection or weakness and especially one that detracts from the whole or hinders effectiveness

Leave it to Merriam and Webster to make me feel worse than I already do about succumbing to my need to know what's going on in the world around me.  I never would have called my thirst for knowledge and connection a weakness. Or even something that kept me from being effective or whole.  If I replace Augie's words with M&W's definition, the only thing melting in my mouth is the sour, decaying taste of licking-loser-ass.  But come on, cut me some slack, "I, myself, am made entirely of [imperfections or weaknesses and especially ones that detracts from the whole or hinders [my] effectiveness], stitched together with good intentions."  Even a smug, former congressman, white man can't smirk about that.

Why are the notifications from one of my social media accounts or email or text messages so hard to resist?  One word. Validation.  Every time someone double-clicks on one of my Instagram™ pictures, it's a validation of me or at least the me I allow to live out in social media-ville. And why do I seek this form of validation? Good question.  I honestly don't seek validation in any other aspect of my life.  I don't even have personal social media accounts.  No idea why... wait a cotton-picking-minute!

I'm asking the wrong question.  What are my intentions behind the content I post on social media?  What do I intend to happen as a result of my posts?

Bullshit Answer: I want to connect with like-minded people who share a similar world view as I do.  It's a great way to let people know what's important to me and what I stand for.

Honest Answer: I post any and everything with the intentions of building my author platform, with the hope of cultivating a reader/fan base for the novels I write.

Now, why is the double-click on my Insta-pic so important?  I need to know I'm connecting with people who may be interested in reading the books I write.  I need to know if I'm doing a good job of growing my platform and building a reader and fan base.

My intentions are not the thread stitching together my weakness to know what's going on in the world around me; to the contrary, my intentions are the fabric which makes up the whole of my person. Perhaps I need to come up with my own quote about good intentions...
Good intentions are like bad sex; by the time you realize it's not going to be enough to get you where you want to be, you've got a hot-mess sitting in your lap to clean up.
When your man asks if you have the good intention to swallow, remind him how quickly those intentions could lead him straight to 3rd degree burns.
I'm a good-intention-whore. I have the good intention of having sex with you for money, but I realize it's easier to get you drunk and steal your money,
My favorite:
The true failure of good intentions is allowing them to fester in the mind; never giving them voice and feet.  Never allowing them to become active participants in living. ~Ella Shawn, Author

Remember, writing is a journey and we become a tad bit braver, a little more beautiful, and lots more enchanting along the way. 


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