What Writers Really Want From Family, Friends, and Readers

Originally I was planning to do a top ten gifts to get the writer in your life but decided I wanted to take December off to focus on me, my family, and my mental health.  Sooooo, that left me with a draft of the top ten things writers... okay, the top ten things I want from my family, friends, and readers. I'm almost certain I'm not alone in at least three of the things on my list; if so, you guys can tell me all about it the comments.

Let's get started.  I'm not going into a lot of details about the items on my list.  If you want a further breakdown, you can tune in to my YouTube channel on Friday for my first video.

  1. Uninterrupted Time: I realize I'm asking for a lot, but I really need this one.  You notice it's at the top of my list.  Honestly, if I could only get one of my top ten items, this would be the one I want more than anything in the entire world. I'm not talking about 30 to 60 minutes a day to myself; I can find those minutes with ease.  I need about four to five, maybe six hours a day to do nothing but work.  For me, that means writing. Because I'm a writer, it's like my family doesn't understand this is a job for me... not a hobby. When I taught English, my children would never dream of calling or showing up in my classroom to ask me about food or if one of our eight guinea pigs is doing all right; however, they have no problems interrupting my time to tell me all matter of daily chatter that I would usually get around the dinner table when I worked outside of the home.
  2. Enthusiastic Support: I write hot, contemporary romance novels. I also produce a weekly podcast for women where I address everything from self-awareness to self-pleasuring. I get that my chosen genre and topics of discussion may be a bit risque, but a little bit of support for my career accomplishments would be greatly appreciated!  I work hard to write, produce, and share my creative endeavors with the masses and it would be awesome if the people I
    enthusiastically support in their personal endeavors would reciprocate that level of support for me. I wonder if they are ashamed of the content I put out there, and if they are... well, I don't know what to do with that. 
  3. Respect for My Craft: I happen to know for a fact not everyone is a natural writer. They all like to think they can tell a great story until they start to share one and people are looking at them like, "What the hell is this person talking about?" In those moments, I am grateful for my ability to tell a great story capable of keeping people interesting for all 380 pages. It seems that if a writer is not traditionally published, they don't deserve the respect of others. I would love to see some of the critics write, edit, format, and publish, and promote their own work of fiction and actually sell copies that earn 5-star reviews.
  4. Reviews: Oh my god!  This is the second most wanted gift on my list. (don't worry about where it's placed 😂) Reviews! Is it so hard to go to Amazon or Goodreads and write a brief review of a book?  It's like readers have no idea how much reviews mean to independently published authors.  Listen, readers, thanks for buying and/or downloading my novels, now can you please leave a review for me.  It doesn't matter if you love or hate it... I just need you to leave your thoughts about it because the more reviews I have, the more visible Amazon makes my book in their marketplace.
  5. Time to People-Watch: I know this seems like a no-brainer.  Like what could be keeping you from people watching, girl? Every time I step out of the house, someone wants to step out with me. I can't people-watch if other people are talking to me or pulling my attention away from the people I've come out to watch.  I love to just sit in a park or a crowed coffeeshop and watch and listen.
    I can't do that when someone is chatting my ear off or smacking loudly on their pastry. Just let me out and give me a couple of hours alone to get my fix. Where the hell do they think I get inspiration for my characters?!
  6.  Quiet: I know it seems like I don't like being around people... okay, I'll admit it.  I really don't.  Let me explain, any given moment there are at least three novels unfolding in my mind--it's crowed and hella loud in there, it makes me a little more sensitive to noise within my environment. If I never had to hear the television or music blaring from the wireless speakers or the sound of other people's voices...I would be so happy. Even the sound of the dishwasher is too much some times. I don't know if this is something I can actually have, but gosh I'd love it if I could experience the bliss of quietude. Maybe noise-canceling headphones... they have those, right
  7. Unlimited Supply of Herbal Teas: I'm a self-proclaimed tea snob and I love nothing more than a piping hot cup of herbal tea. The more pretentious, the better.  Honestly, there's something about drinking tea that helps me think clearly and writer better.  The smell, the warmth, the beautiful flavors... What can I say?  I need tea to write.
  8. A Personal Assistant: I don't even know what I would have my PA do for me--wait, oh hell yes I do!  I know exactly what I would have them do for me.  Organize my life... from top to bottom. Manage my social media platforms. Do my online grocery shopping, listen to me rant and rave about shit not working out in my plot, bring me loads of my pretentious herbal tea when I'm knee-deep in the thick of writing, remind me to pee and eat, and oh yeah... keep me sane when I'm more than likely only seconds from painting my face green and running into the nearest swamp to live as Fiona.  Gosh, I really do need to find a personal assistant.  I wonder if I could offer an unpaid internship to a college student for the summer?  That's a thought... maybe a communications or marketing major looking to build a resume for social media and communications management.
  9. The Most Comfortable Loungewear on the Market: I get up every morning and get dressed in clothes that are less than comfortable and/or conducive to writing for hours on end.  I want to get up, take care of morning routine, and then put on the most comfortable loungewear on the market.  It needs to be able to move with me while allowing me to feel like I'm naked. I also need to be able to run out and grab a snack or sit in a cafe if the mood hits me.  And really, I don't even own a real bra, so to able to go without a braw would be of the utmost importance.  Obviously, it would need to be wash and wear, stain-resistant, and able to hold its shape and comfortability after being worn and washed repeatedly.  If any of you know where I can find something like this, please leave me a comment and link below 😍.  Thanks in advance.
  10. Notebooks and Pens: Listen, I know people may not understand a writer's obsession with notebooks and pens, but there is a reason for the madness.  At least I have a reason for my particular form of notebook and pen psychosis. I never know when I'm going to be inspired to start writing a new novel, short story, or poem. When the mood hits me, I need something to write--yes, I still write my 1st drafts longhand--in and the only thing I want is an amazing pen and a beautiful, well-bound notebook to capture the first thoughts of what may or may not become a novel, short story collection or a book of poetry.  So yes, expensive notebooks and journals and pens are like a night filled with massive multiple orgasms... maybe not that great, but I really love getting beautiful notebooks and pens.

Well.  I've shared the top ten things writers really want from family, friends, and readers. Some of these items won't cost your people one brown cent and others aren't that expensive in the broad scheme of things. And what if they are a little esoteric and strange? Writers are known for our eccentric natures and our frivolity, right? 

If you're a writer, what items would you add to this list? I can't wait to hear from you, leave me a comment and any links to products you think I may like.

Want to hear more from about what I want as a writer from family and friends... Go to my YouTube Channel and check out my video.

Remember, life is a journey and when the Universe sprinkles Her wisdom along your path, be grateful.  Live one enchanted moment at a time and stay present.  Until next time; be brave, be beautiful, and be enchanting.



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